The secret role “dressing up” plays on your confidence

Showgirls.Life – Why Dress Up?

Why Dress up?

As a #showgirlforlife, I sometimes forget that dressing up is a mystery to some people. (I live in Colorado, our “formal” is usually jeans and a button down.) I forget that dressing glamorously is not a normal thing that people experience except maybe 3 times in their lives: homecoming, prom, and weddings.

But I get to do it 3-4 times a month, sometimes more! When people perceive me and my well-dressed suitor, we are often asked what the special occasion is. It has become a fun game for us to tell a different story every time. We have even gotten “in uniform” discounts for dressing so nicely. ?

Confidence Over Practicality

Recently, I was invited to a rather upscale event that required black tie/masquerade attire. In the mountains. In a freezing rain/snowstorm.

While I packed my bag, knowing that the inclement weather could affect my outfit, I packed two options. A safe, Colorado option, and my usual ultra-glam option.

Guess which one I wore?

Professor Phelyx and I dressed to the nines during an ice storm, Stanley Hotel, Estes Park, Colorado.

To be honest, I put on the safe option first. But I was furious that I was letting the weather dictate my dress, so I changed.

While I still wore my parka over my gown to get to the event, I felt so much happier and confident when I arrived at the glamorous event dressed to the hilt.  Although in hindsight, I should have worn snow boots to traipse through the icy parking lot instead of my 4” stilettos, as much as the spikes helped dig in and prevent me from falling.

How I tap into my Sexy

Even though I wasn’t as confident on the ice as I was in the ballroom, the choice to spend the majority of my evening dressed to the nines was the right one for me.

It is always this way for my daily non-Showgirl life too.

While I don’t/can’t wear feathers and rhinestones all the time, I do try to tap into my Showgirl in similarly gratifying ways.

  • Wearing red lips and lashes
  • Darkening eyebrows and putting on darker lips
  • Selecting clothing based on luxury/glamour, not comfort
  • Wearing my satin romper instead of cozy llama onesie
  • Looking at photos and videos of myself performing
  • Dressing a bit dressier for date night
  • Wearing heels
  • Spritzing on my sexy smell

These methods don’t convey Showgirl to anyone I interact with, but they do make me feel confident and sexy in my own skin. I do all of these things to feel good about myself, whether anyone else gets to enjoy perceiving them or not.

Confidence Building

Simple yet effective, these adjustments in your life can help you tap into your sexy and build more confidence.

The key is to sprinkle it into your daily life so that you are adding more magic to your mundane on a regular basis. It truly does wonders for your self esteem and confidence. (I know because I went from frumpy mom back to showgirl and have experienced the power of taking my body back.)

Comment below with your favorite ways to tap into your own brand of sexy!


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